FAQ – Wait Until Later

When do most kids get smartphones?

The average age for a child to receive their first smartphone is around 10 years old. Many children start feeling the pressure to own one as early as 4th grade.

When should I give my child a smartphone?

We strongly recommend waiting until at least the age of 16 before introducing a smartphone.

When do most kids start using social media?

By age 12, the majority of children are active on social media, with 40% of tweens (ages 8-12) already engaging with these platforms.

When should my child start using social media?

We advocate for delaying social media use until at least age 16. A good rule of thumb: driving before socializing online! Trusted sources like Common Sense Media and Protect Young Eyes suggest these minimum age recommendations:
Snapchat: 16+
Instagram: 15+ (Common Sense Media), 16+ (Protect Young Eyes)
TikTok: 15+ (Common Sense Media), 16+ (Protect Young Eyes)

Why wait until at least the age of 16 for a smartphone?

Experts—including child psychologists, internet safety advocates, and even tech executives—recommend waiting until at least age 16 before introducing smartphones. We recognize that getting widespread support for waiting until 16 or 18 is challenging. This is why we are building this community.

Does waiting until the age of 16 mean my child gets a smartphone at that time?

No! By signing the pledge, you are committing to at least waiting until the age of 16 grade before considering a smartphone. At that point, families can reassess whether their child is ready or if a basic phone is still a better option.

How can I stay in touch with my child without a smartphone?

Consider a basic “dumb” phone or a two-way calling watch. The pledge is specific to smartphones, so if your child only needs a device for calls and texts, you can still sign the pledge. See our list of basic phone options here.

Can my child have a smartwatch and still take the pledge?

Yes, but proceed with caution. While smartwatches can offer communication features, they can also be distractions at school. Some models even allow access to inappropriate content. If opting for a smartwatch, disable app downloads and notifications during school hours.

What is the difference between a smartphone and a basic phone?

Smartphone: Internet access, app store, social media, and multiple digital distractions.

Basic phone: Primarily for calls and texts, without internet browsing or app downloads.

The pledge encourages delaying smartphones, but basic phones are an alternative that still allows communication without the risks.

Where can I find a basic phone?

Visit our resource page for recommended basic phone and two-way calling watch options.

How does the pledge work?

The pledge unites parents in delaying smartphone use until at least the age of 16. Once 10 families from the same school and grade sign the pledge, it becomes active. You will be notified and receive contact information for other participating families.

What happens after I sign the pledge?

You will receive an email with tips on how to rally other parents in your school community.

Is my pledge anonymous?

Your pledge remains anonymous until it becomes active (when at least 10 families from your child’s school and grade have signed). At that point, parents in your group will be connected via email, but your information will not be shared publicly.

How will I know when the pledge is active?

Once 10 parents from your child’s school and grade sign the pledge, we will send a group email connecting all participating families. Moving forward, you’ll be notified as more families join.

Is an iPad the same as a smartphone?

No. While iPads have similar features, they are usually kept at home, while smartphones are constantly carried. The portability of a smartphone makes it a more disruptive presence in a child’s daily life.

What if my child already has a smartphone?

It’s never too late to change course! Explain to your child why other families in their grade are waiting, and consider switching to a basic phone to minimize risks. Our resources page also offeres help with managing the balanced use of a smartphone.

How do I handle younger siblings if my older child already has a smartphone?

Each child’s needs and circumstances are different. If an older sibling received a smartphone earlier, explain to your younger child why the family is making a different choice now.

How can my middle schooler stay connected with friends without a smartphone?

Some families use a family-shared iPad for texting and FaceTime in a common area (like the kitchen). Others opt for a basic phone with limited features. .

What happens after we successfully wait for a smartphone?

Congratulations! Once your child reaches the age of 16, evaluate whether a smartphone is necessary. Many families decide to wait even longer or opt for a basic phone instead. The goal is to ensure your child is truly ready for the responsibility. Then you can set up a smartphone contract with your child. You will find templates in the resources page.